I wanted to do something a little differently this morning because I’ve spent three days in bed with nothing else to do but think. And for me, that’s dangerous! 🙂 (Ask Hubby)! One of the things I was thinking about was my Top 5 Wedding Planning tips and here they are!
So, if I had to narrow it down, what would they be? And even when I narrowed it down to my top 5 wedding tips there was still one, very important tip that couldn’t be in the list but rather was the list because I personally think that no matter what your top 5 are, we all need this one and that is: Remember that the Top 5 Wedding Planning tips are a personal thing, each of us has our own priorities and therefore that list will change and that’s absolutely OK.
My top 5 Wedding Planning tips
5. Discuss and agree on how you see your wedding day
Over a bottle of wine and a gorgeous romantic dinner (a good excuse for one anyway) chat about your dreams, your expectations, your limitations and worries over the big day. Discuss what is most important to you both and what is least important and combine your ideas to then create the story you want to tell on the day. Remember this day is all about you two, nobody else and there is no right or wrong in how you want your big day to stand out. Also delegate, then and there, the jobs you’ll both look after so you’ve got a clear idea where you can start. And don’t forget to have fun during the planning process and have regular romantic dinners (any excuse for me) 🙂 to chat about how its’ going, what you’d like to change etc – communication is most important between the two of you: make decisions as a team.
4. Be yourselves
Design your wedding day how you want it to be, not how your Mum or Mother-In-Law think it ‘should’ be. There’s no point looking back on the wedding photos and thinking “I wish we had…”. Break tradition, stick to tradition, mix tradition. There is no right or wrong unless you listen to others instead of listening to your own heart. The biggest, most spectacular, most romantic day of your life is exactly that – YOUR’S!!!
Think about your values and prioritise. Everyones priority list is different and that’s how it should be! Although photography would be my most important priority for my wedding, marrying on the beach can be someone else’s. What’s important is not what ‘should be’ or is ‘supposed to be traditional’, it’s what makes your day the way that makes you most comfortable and you the most happy. A wedding day is all about the Bride and Groom and their love for each other. Yes, soppy, but, when you get down to it, like Rob and I did in a Registry office, it doesn’t’ matter where, when or how, what matters is the words that come from you and your partner in declaring your love and life together. The rest is just about how you celebrate the momentous occasion. Just don’t forget your list! Always come back to it, and if you have to – compromise to make sure you get the day you want.
2. Don’t sweat the small stuff
At the end of the day, it will all be alright on the nigh! And if you keep this positive mental attitude throughout the entire planning process, I promise you, it will because this kind of thinking prepares us and makes sure that no matter what happens, be it snow, the flowers not being right, half the guests not showing up – you’ll still marry the man of your dreams and that’s what its all about: exchanging your vows and becoming Husband and Wife. A wedding is created by a myriad of different sized details all coming together to form one big beautiful day and seeing that there’s probably a thousand or so of these details, there is bound to be a few ‘whoopsies’ along the way. But don’t worry about them! You’re not getting married to show off that 12 tiered cake by the best cake maker in town, or to wear the Vera Wang dress to one up your High school x-friend. You’re marrying the love of your life and celebrating the joining of you two as individuals to create your one family and as long as that happens on the day – it will be perfect!!! Remember why you’re there!!! 🙂
1. Relax and have a hell of a lot of fun
Your wedding is probably the biggest and most important party you’ll ever plan and attend so make it fun, memorable and affordable. This will help make sure you have a hell of a lot of fun on the day and look back with beautiful, intimate memories as you stroll through your wedding album. And no matter what, enjoy every minute of it. Relax, have fun and soak in every detail from the night you get engaged, through the planning and all the way through the day itself. Trust me, after doing it twice, I still look back and think how quickly the day itself seems to go: one minute your planning it, the next your looking back through your wedding photos so relax and enjoy it!!!
Photo by the incredibly talented: Wasylewski Photography
If you liked my Top 5 Wedding Planning tips, be sure to read the Top 5 Ways To Prevent A Wedding Disaster – your free copy here!
Have a wonderfully whimsical day!
P.S. What would your top tips be??